Updated: Jun 22
Before I get into the post, I just wanted to say what a fantastic job our NHS, emergency services and key workers are doing. You are inspiring so many. I think I speak for everyone when I say we are grateful for everything that you are doing.
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Back to the blog post! Hi, welcome to the first blog post of Dater Help.
Ah, social distancing can be very difficult. You've watched everything on Netflix, ate just about everything in your cupboards, and the highlight of your day is a trip to the fridge. If you are struggling, it's ok to feel sad or anxious sometimes. Keeping a schedule, writing a diary, opening the windows, and making sure you get your daily exercise (if you are allowed) is incredibly important.
While we don't know how long this could go on for, it's important to keep on trucking with the world of online dating, but with a few changes...
1. Should I go out to meet someone I have matched with from a dating app?
No, seriously. It's not worth it.
2. I have been speaking to someone new that I haven't met yet, I don't want it to fade.
Keeping things 'fresh' isn't as easy when you are not physically able to meet the person. Sadly, many online-dating conversations dry up purely because there's not enough interest from one person or both. Try talking over the phone or even Facetiming your match.
Making the best out of a situation like this can be quite a lot of fun! Why not ask your date whether you should both dress up as if it were a real date? It would be a talking point and a lot of fun! Introducing your pet to your date is also a fun idea. This is also a fantastic time to see whether you and your date 'click' and whether meeting up 'in the real world' once all of this is over is worth it.
3. Is online dating during Coronavirus even worth bothering?
Yes and yes. Human connection is important and you find beautiful things grow from the unlikeliest of events. (ahhhh, how romantic)
4. Can I invite my date over?
Nope, you shouldn't invite them over in any circumstances. While it may be tempting to have a little Netflix and Chill evening, you are doing your bit by distancing yourself from other people. Once all of this is over, you can Netflix and Chill until you are blue in the face.
5. Which dating apps should I use?
Tinder, Bumble and Hinge are 'the big 3' which I can recommend you try. Many people are joining or using the app more during this strange time. Get swiping!
Once again, thank you to all the amazing people working so hard to keep us safe. I hope you stay safe, too.
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